Blog, Conflict Resolution, Fairness, Preparing for Mediation, Self-Determination
Red Flag or Gold Star? Most couples that come to see me have chosen divorce mediation because they would like to arrive at a fair settlement with as little acrimony and expense as possible. These couples have a sense of practicality and confidence in their ability to...
Blog, Conflict Resolution, Control, Custom, Self-Determination
As a divorce mediator, I have seen couples reap the benefits of taking control over decision-making during divorce. Mediation allows them to focus on the important and extremely personal details of their lives and shape better settlements. With so much on the line,...
Blog, Conflict Resolution, Neutral Third Party
Roger Fisher, Harvard Law professor and pioneer of negotiation and conflict resolution techniques famously referred to the best-qualified mediator as a Eunuch from Mars, someone who is not aligned with either party and is disinterested in the issues at hand....
Blog, Conflict Resolution, Empathy, Managing Emotions
My 79-year-old mother is far from tech savvy (who am I kidding, I am far from tech savvy!) and English is not her native language but she needs a smart phone to use Uber and other apps to help maintain her independence. I think getting a smart phone is a good decision...
Agreement, Blog, Conflict Resolution, Control
Most of us regularly give up control over various aspects of our daily lives. We let the deli guy determine the amount of milk in our coffee, we trust the hairdresser to trim and coif our hair. Generally, it’s routine stuff. Other times, however, we have no choice but...
Blog, Conflict Resolution, Empathy, Listening, Managing Emotions
Essentially, we humans go about our day-to-day business selectively interpreting our environment. Which really means that we are always at least a little bit wrong about what we think are facts. Naturally, the differences in our interpretations give rise to arguments....