Kathy Seiden's Blog
Useful news and information about divorce mediation and other topics
Pulling Heartstrings
You know those commercials that are designed to pull your heartstrings by showing children or animals in need. Like most people I have a really hard time watching those. They are designed, complete with Sara MacLachlan playing in the background, to make us feel guilty...
Pushing Buttons
My 79-year-old mother is far from tech savvy (who am I kidding, I am far from tech savvy!) and English is not her native language but she needs a smart phone to use Uber and other apps to help maintain her independence. I think getting a smart phone is a good decision...
Choose Control or Lose Control
Most of us regularly give up control over various aspects of our daily lives. We let the deli guy determine the amount of milk in our coffee, we trust the hairdresser to trim and coif our hair. Generally, it’s routine stuff. Other times, however, we have no choice but...
“There Are No Facts, Only Interpretations “ (Nietzsche)
Trying and succeeding to see things from another viewpoint can be enlightening and rewarding.
Embrace Your DisComfort Zone
Getting divorced or losing your job sets you up for the challenge of your life. When shoved from your comfort zone what can be gained?
Fairness Factor
Have you heard the one about the two capuchin monkeys? Two capuchin monkeys walk into a bar… Only kidding, the actual story goes like this. Two capuchin monkeys are kept in chambers side by side for the purpose of conducting an experiment, maybe you have seen the...
Can You Forgive Even if You Can’t Forget?
Can You Forgive Even If You Can’t Forget? The lyrics to the Don Henley song ”Heart of the Matter” shares valuable wisdom. There are people in your life who've come and gone, They let you down, you know they've hurt your pride. You better put it behind you; 'cause life...
What do a Hostage Negotiator and Divorce Mediator Have in Common?
Hostage Negotiators and Divorce Mediators draw on similar skills.
What is the Role of the Law in Divorce Mediation?
If divorce mediation is about self-determination then why should couples care about what the law says? In order to make informed decisions that stand the test of time.
Ten Thousand Steps
Setting goals and using checklists is a good way to keep couples focused on the issues, organized and moving forward in divorce mediation.